Have you ever heard the expression “If you want to know what you’re attracting in your life, take a look at around you”? What this means is that you’re naturally attracted to what you think you need, not who you really are! And not knowing who they really are is the main reason divorced women have such a difficult time finding their next relationship.
Most divorced women date randomly, allowing things like first impressions, chemistry, or sheer physical attraction lead them from one bad relationship to another. While chemistry is an undeniably important part of any romance, by itself it’s a poor prediction of a relationship’s long-term success.
Compatibility, on the other hand, is the glue that holds a relationship together. It’s the foundation on which you and your partner can build and sustain a happy life together. Compatible partners complement each other’s lifestyle choices, habits, interests, core beliefs, and support each other’s personal passions and life goals. Compatibility allows couples to fan that initial spark into a deep and meaningful connection that extends far beyond a great first date.
The first step towards finding a great guy is learning to recognize genuinely compatible partners, but before you can recognize a genuinely compatible partner you have to understand what’s most important to you. What qualities does your Mr. Right need to have? What are the character traits that you just can’t live without?
Most singles can’t answer these questions easily because they truly do not know their core values, their basic romantic needs, their love language, or their ideal man’s personality and temperament. And that’s unfortunate, because these things are compatibility’s not-so-secret ingredients!
What I’m trying to say here is this: if you really want to find true love, you have to partner with yourself first.
I’ve built my entire coaching practice around this simple belief, and I know from first-hand experience just how transformative this shift in perspective can be. If you think you’re ready to have your last first date, reach out and let me know. I’d love to help you discover the fabulous single you already are!