Here’s the catch, though: most women dating after divorce approach dating the same way. They wait until they’re on an actual date to start sizing up a potential partner. The result? A merry-go-round of first meets, bad dates, failed relationships, broken hearts, and a lot of wasted time.
I have yet to meet a prospective client who dates consciously. Although almost all of the women I’ve worked with have a checklist (or three!) of things they’re looking for in a man, not one of them has ever entertained the idea of trying to recognize a compatible partner before meeting them for the first time. Even more alarmingly, surprisingly few women I’ve worked with understand how important it is to understand themselves, and what unique traits make them compatible, before they start dating online.
Conscious, confident daters do two things differently (and consistently):
(1) they partner with themselves first and
(2) they screen men before they go on dates.
Armed with this knowledge, a single woman can use the personal information men share about themselves on dating sites to begin identifying potential compatible partners before their first face-to-face meet up.
This approach also empowers them to stop dating randomly and, perhaps for the first time in their lives, begin to experience the joy of dating.
Single women who partner with themselves first don’t waste their time in dead-end relationships. As daters, they feel calm, confident and in control of a process they understand.